You know it's hard to always be under such scrutiny for the way we parent, but not be able to hold R1ck's X and new DH to the same scrutiny.
We recently overlooked something that they felt was very serious. They feel that in overlooking it we have be contrary in our words and actions. Honestly, we just overlooked it, what with the recent arrest and alternative school and the like. But, trying to explain that to them is like trying to reason with a three year old about bedtime when her favorite movie has not finished.
Useless.
Basically, any and all of our conversations with them are useless. We are always belittled, misquoted and only when the X has had enough then is it over, no more discussions.
Because it is always about her. Always. The children take the back seat to every discussion and every decision while her feelings are always in the forefront. And her new DH always comes to her "rescue" making a bigger mess of the situation and an @ss of himself.
And she has definite issues when having to deal with R1ck. Issues that stem from her insecurities about herself from childhood and from the way she treated him during their marriage. She plays the victim every time, claiming that R1ck "bullies" her when ever they talk. When in reality she dominates the conversation and demands things of him.
Her view of things is so skewed and I realized today after talking to a former friend of hers and talking with Dev1n the other day, she has passed down those views to Dev1n.
And it scares me to think that Dev1n could grow up thinking/feeling the same way about R1ck because of how his X interprets their conversations and interactions.
I don't know how I want to respond to their emails or if I even should. I am just so tired of it being about her, about them.
Maybe there is a lesson I need to be learning from all of this, but I am having a hard time figuring it out right now.
In fact I am having a hard time with a lot of things right now.
Nothing that a good cry wouldn't fix.
I really need a good cry.
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Early Morning Surprises..... - Saturday, Feb. 18, 2006
Meeting New Friends..... - Wednesday, Feb. 15, 2006
"Look! It's Winter!" - Kari, when she woke from her nap in the car and it was snowing! - Sunday, Feb. 12, 2006